Episode 5 – Are you suffering from Boreout?

Episode 5 – Are you suffering from Boreout?

Are you suffering from Boreout?

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We all know what a burnout is, but have you heard of BOREOUT?

It’s a disorder caused by chronic mental underload that leads to a persistent lack of motivation and interest, to frustration, lethargy and in some cases even depression. 

I’ve noticed this syndrome in some of my coaching clients and so in this episode of The Empowered Expat Wife Podcast, I’ve taken all the scientific research and made it relevant to expat wives. 

A topic close to my heart

This is a topic very close to my heart: first of all, because it isn’t nearly talked about enough, causing affected women to feel like something’s wrong with them. And yet, it is a real condition that can lead to depression (in some literature it has been described as a “soul infarct”), so it must be taken seriously. Since specializing on working with (expat) women presenting Boreout symptoms, I’ve seen incredible results and transformations!

But I’ve also had some encounters with Boreout of my own:

My story

As newly-weds, my husband was relocated to Madrid – a city I knew and loved but where all of our friends were working full time. Meanwhile, I was minimally working from home in the 1st year and was on parental leave with our firstborn the 2nd year.⁣

The days were long. We lived somewhere in the outskirts of the city with not much to do at first glance.

So I started watching a stupid 3-hour long morning show…

I’d drive up to a huge supermarket and spent hours strolling down the aisles. Just to have something to do.

When I went to the park with my baby, I was the only mom there surrounded by nannies in uniforms.

And when my husband came home late, I expected him to fill up my own, empty cup.

No matter what I’d do to “kill time” it wouldn’t light me up. Because I hadn’t yet figured out the formula of what’s needed to break out of Boreout:

Step 1:

Listen to this Podcast episode in which you’ll learn:

  • what Boreout is and where it comes from 
  • how you can spot symptoms in yourself and others
  • the types of expat wives that are most prone to suffer from it
  • what perpetuates Boreout
  • what you can do to cope

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Step 2:

Overcoming Boreout is something I take very seriously in my 1:1 client sessions. There are two key ingredients in the remedy:

  1. Engage in activities that stimulate your intellect

    You can keep very busy and your calendar might be full, but if the activities aren’t intellectually challenging you, if there’s no accomplishment to show at the end of the day and you’re not making making any impact it won’t feel fulfilling to you.

    That’s why you’ll need align your weekly activities with what’s truly driving and motivating you:
  2. Find your individual meaning and purpose across borders

    This is the fourth of my 4 Pillar Approach to a Fulfilled Life Abroad and I can’t stress its importance enough.

    This is obviously highly personal. I believe everyone is here on Earth with a unique purpose and mission. So don’t give in to outside pressure that may try and convince you that:

    All you need to feel fulfilled is _____________ (kids, a job, start a business, more friends, moving back home or somewhere else, etc)”

    This may (partly) be true, but noone else can decide that but yourself, after really looking within and uncovering your authentic truth, desires and goals for your life.

    Because of its highly individualistic nature, there is no shortcut to uncovering YOURS. It’s a beautiful and gratifying process and I’d love to accompany you on that journey.

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Further Resources:

Read my article on Boreout in Expat Partners published in the Global Living Magazine

Read my blog post Expat Wife Dilemmas: EMPTINESS

Read my blog post on Boreout in Expat Wives

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Episode 4 – Making Friends and Building a Network Abroad

Episode 4 – Making Friends and Building a Network Abroad

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We all know what it’s like to move to a new country and not know anyone: what doctor should you go to? At what stores can you get the things you’re looking for? Who to have a cup of coffee with, let alone talk about your feelings?

Establishing friendships and a network abroad is not just of personal, but also of professional importance! After all, lacking connections can often hold us back from entering the job market or starting our own business.

I’ve personally started over many, many times and would say that I’ve been pretty successful in creating meaningful connections.

In this episode I’ll:

  • highlight some cultural differences when it comes to befriending others
  • talk about the pros and cons of expat vs local friendships

and most importantly:

  • share my top 7 tips to meeting people and making friends abroad, all tested and proven, so that you too can increase your ‘inner circle’ abroad!

Further Resources

Read my blog post How to Connect and Make Friends Abroad

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Episode 3 – Overcoming Loneliness Abroad

Episode 3 – Overcoming Loneliness Abroad

Overcoming Loneliness Abroad

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In this episode we’ll take a deep dive into understanding and overcoming loneliness. It’s a feeling we all experience at one point or another throughout our international lives and relocations.

First of all because moving abroad is life-changing and -interrupting. You say goodbye to everything and everyone you knew, in order to start over somewhere else. You may not yet know anyone abroad, or not well enough. Everything is different and can seem alien to you.

Secondly, your husband is probably integrated in his work environment so his need for interaction and connection is somewhat meet. Meanwhile, you’re left to manage day-to-day life in a new country, probably with little support and without a hand to hold.

Let me send you a big, virtual hug at this point – you’re doing such a great job and I’m so, so proud of you!

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • What loneliness is made up of exactly
    … so that, instead of looking away, you can really get to know this feeling. Remember that what we know and understand well loses its power and grip over us!
  • The 5 antidotes to loneliness
    … and how you can integrate them into your expat life today.

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Further Reading and Resources:

Read my blog post on OVERCOMING LONELINESS

Books by Brené Brown: Bravering the Wilderness, The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly and others

Book by Teal Swan: The Anatomy of Loneliness

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Episode 2 – Finding your Inner Happy Place (with Rachel Lynn)

Episode 2 – Finding your Inner Happy Place (with Rachel Lynn)

TEEW #02: Finding Your Inner Happy Place – with Rachael Lynn

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Today, published author and thought leader Rachael Lynn and I are having an inspiring conversation about finding your inner happy place, your home within and strengthening the relationship to yourself.

This is especially important for women who moved abroad, married into a different culture and feel a bit lost and disconnected from themselves.

You’ll find out:

* How to get in touch with your ‘inner happy place’ or ‘home within’

Rachael defines this as an inner knowing that you’ve got yourself.

I’ve previously likened it to the feeling of an internal embrace.

When you’re so connected to yourself and nurture the relationship with yourself (which is essentially the only one you’ll have for a lifetime!), you’ll be able to establish trust in yourself that – no matter what happens – you’ll be fine. You’ve gone through hardships before, remember? So now, too, you can find the resources within yourself that it takes to overcome this challenge.


* How re-thinking ‘happiness’ can help you experience it, even in challenging time

In her book. At Home Anywhere, Rachael writes:

Happiness is not a person, a place or a thing. All of those can give you a feeling of happiness – hence the term “it makes me happy”. But they’re not happiness itself. It’s your observation of the person (place or thing) you love or what they do that creates the happiness you feel.

“At Home Anywhere” by Rachael Lynn

What this means is that your happiness actually has its origin inside of you. The outside can provide a stimulus, sure, but if it doesn’t move something within you, it won’t result in you feeling happy.

Again, this showcases the importance of nurturing and strengthening our ‘inner happy place’, above all. When you feel unhappy, for instance upon moving to a different country or marrying into a different culture that overwhelms you, remember that YOU are the constant. YOU can be the safe haven for yourself. YOU can be ‘home’.

So make the relationship to yourself a priority. This doesn’t make you selfish but rather prepares you to show up as your own best version: for yourself, for others and for life in general.

* How the question of ‘identity’ plays into our wellbeing abroad

Our identity is nothing more than the image we have of ourselves: because of where we grew up, what we did, who we hung out with, what we worked as or the way we lived life. This image can be shattered when our surroundings and circumstances change. A move abroad. A marriage abroad. A new chapter of life.

Rachael reminds us that when we are confronted with the need to re-define who we are, it can feel like a re-birth. And the birthing process involves some pain that we’ll inevitably experience.

However, this is also a great opportunity to think about who you want to be (and maybe couldn’t be before). What you’ve always wanted to do (and possibly did not dare to).

After all, our identity is simply a label. Labels may help us to feel like we belong to a community; but they can also limit us to expand and evolve. The bottomline is that we’re all so much more than any label could possibly describe – it’s time for us to tap into everything else that’s possible and available for us!

Watch this video about the Expat Identity Crisis (and why it might be a good thing):



* How journaling can bring you closer to your ‘inner happy place’

As an author, it comes as no surprise that Rachael is big on writing. What she’s found is that journaling can open the gateways to your inner truth and thus helps you to create more understanding, compassion and connection to yourself. She’s provided journal prompts for you (see below) and offers a journaling course “Journaling Within” for those who want to dive deeper into this healthy practice.

Find out more about Rachael at www.rachael-lynn.com and follow her on Instagram and Facebook.

You can order her book “At Home Anywhere” on Amazon and download a free chapter on her website!

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Episode 1 – Your Roadmap to a Fulfilled Life Abroad

Episode 1 – Your Roadmap to a Fulfilled Life Abroad

TEEW, Episode #1-01: Your Roadmap To A Fulfilled Life Abroad

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Moving abroad can feel so overwhelming. It means starting over from scratch in many ways, stepping outside your comfort zone, redefining yourself and experiencing a shift in the relationship dynamic with your spouse… You want the best for yourself and your family but:

Where should you start?

In this episode you’ll learn about some of my signature frameworks and concepts I use with my clients, so that you can create your very own roadmap to living a fulfilled life abroad.

1. The Inner Happy Place Concept

This is a term I coined to describe a state of feeling at home within, of connectedness to ourselves, of wholeness, inner peace and alignment.

I still remember the exact moment I realized that: while I couldn’t have a physical happy place, I could have an internal one. My inner happy place. And that felt so empowering, liberating and comforting like nothing ever before. 

To this day, I know that when I’m connected with mine things sort of fall into place. It’s when I lose this connectedness to myself (like at moments during the Covid19 Crisis and the complete lockdown we experienced here in Spain) that they don’t.

So, the bottomline is: feeling good, aligned and connected with yourself is your most important task and the basis for everything else, even for all of your relationships… and this is what finding your inner happy place is all about. 

You can read more about finding and cultivating your ‘Inner Happy Place’ in this blog post and definitely stay tuned for next week’s episode where I’ll welcome a very special guest to take this topic further.

2. The 4 Pillars Of A Fulfilled Life Abroad

These are the 4 areas in your cross-border life that will need to be built and strengthened.

And in order for you to get started right away and to take inspired action, I’ve created a free, downloadable workbook for you, “5 Self-Coaching Tools for a fulfilled life abroad”: 

Click here to download your free guide with powerful exercises to make the most of your life in each of the 4 Pillars of a fulfilled life abroad!

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What to expect from THE EMPOWERED EXPAT WIFE PODCAST

What to expect from THE EMPOWERED EXPAT WIFE PODCAST

What to expect from THE EMPOWERED EXPAT WIFE PODCAST

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Being an expat wife is a journey of mixed emotions and unique challenges that others often can’t relate to. It also puts many women in a position of more dependency than they’d like and many of my clients feel like they can’t find their own place and “don’t see eye to eye” with their partners anymore.

Enter: The Empowered Expat Wife Podcast.

This is a project very close to my heart because so often am I confronted with the fact that expat and diplomatic spouses fall through the cracks and have a harder time creating

  • an independent and self-sufficient life for themselves
  • a strong relationship and happy, stable home for their families
  • financial security and retirement arrangements
  • a professional track record and income generation
  • long-lasting support networks to fall back on

Meanwhile, statistics underline that the divorce rate among expat and diplomatic couples is elevated, which leaves these women in a vulnerable position.

Of course, there’s a lot we can gain from our international lifestyle and relationships, and I believe we’ll achieve that by becoming EMPOWERED.

My mission for this Podcast is to help foreign born spouses

? get on top of the game
? live secure and self-sufficient lives in the midst of relocations
? find meaning and purpose across borders
? create a harmonious home for their multicultural families
? and learn how to turn their challenges into opportunities.

*** New episodes coming to you every Thursday on your favorite Podcast Platform! ***

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