Episode 25: The Empowered Stay-At-Home Expat Mom

Episode 25: The Empowered Stay-At-Home Expat Mom

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The Empowered Stay-At-Home Expat Mom

I started this Podcast to empower accompanying spouses to become more empowered, more independent and in control of their lives. But what this will look like, will depend solely on your values, priorities, goals and circumstances.

There’s an important group of ladies (who also make up a large portion of my coaching clients) that often does not receive enough credit: The stay-at-home expat or diplomatic mom and housewife. And this episode is to tell you that I see you, I value you and everything you do!

Now of course with accompanying wives – be it expat or diplomat – it’s often not a free choice or not entirely. There are indeed challenges along the way that make working and building a career difficult. 

Career on hold

So if you are struggling with your current role as a stay-at-home-mom and housewife, this episode will help you to:

  • embrace the status quo
  • think of yourself in a completely differently way (confidence boost)
  • show you how to master the most common pain points of stay-at-home-moms
  • and offer guidance to find your way out of financial dependency, unemployability, lack of intellectual stimulation

 

And if you are fully embracing your role as a stay-at-home mom, this episode will:

  • serve as a little pep talk while also
  • empowering you to become more independent, fulfilled and in control of your life

 

This episode is value-packed so I hope you’ll soak up all of the tips, tools and advice and implement them in your own life right away!

 

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Further Resources:

Financial Independence:
TEEW Episode 9: Breaking Out Of Financial Dependency
TEEW Episode 10: Becoming Financially Empowered with Lisa Mitchell

Working and Entrepreneurship for Expat Women:
TEEW Episode 7: Starting a Portable Business with Amel Derragui (Tandem Nomads)
TEEW Episode 8: Create a Killer CV (Expat Wife Edition) with Lucy Samuels
TEEW Episode 12: Goal Setter, Goal Getter with Sonya Sigler

Micro-Moments of Self Care:
TEEW Episode 11: How to Avoid Holiday Burnout and Blues

Having Help:
Instagram Post: The “Help Dilemma” 

 

The Stay-At-Home Expat Mom Mindset Transformation Exercise

 

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Episode 24: Creating a Strong Family Culture Abroad

Episode 24: Creating a Strong Family Culture Abroad

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Creating a Strong Family Culture Abroad

As expat moms, our third culture kids’ wellbeing tends to be one of our biggest concerns:

How can we make sure that they’ll embrace and thrive in their international lifestyle?
What can we do to strengthen their self esteem, sense of belonging and perceived identity?
How can we honour our roots while at the same time enjoy the multicultural influences we’re exposed to along the way?
How can we, as a family, stick together – despite the challenges a global lifestyle / move abroad or return home can bring?

 

Strengthening your family identity

When our own and our surroundings change, it becomes even more important to establish a strong sense of rootedness, safety and support within our family.

You can imagine that – as the mother of 3 multicultural, bilingual boys – these questions are always top of mind. And in this episode, I share my 7 favorite tips with you for creating that strong family culture abroad.

 

You’ll find out:

– how living abroad can allow you to “get to know” each family member on a deeper level

– why stories are so powerful and how use them to create a strong family culture

– why a balance of “roots” and “wings” will benefit your third culture children

– how to create unique family traditions that represent your globally mobile / multicultural family’s journey

as well as some fun and original ways to strengthen your family’s cohesion abroad!

 

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Episode 23: Having a Baby Abroad – with Karen Wilmot, The Virtual Midwife

Episode 23: Having a Baby Abroad – with Karen Wilmot, The Virtual Midwife

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Having a Baby Abroad

Today I’m interviewing Karen Wilmot – also known as The Virtual Midwife.

You didn’t know such a thing existed? Me neither, but boy am I grateful to hear it does!

Pregnancy is such an incredible yet overwhelming experience and I always longed for someone who’d “hold my hand” through it, someone I could ask all the questions that arise – and that you may not want to bother your (foreign) doctor with. Someone who knows, someone who understands, someone who’s Team ME!

Well, whether you’re planning to have a baby, currently pregnant or you’ve already given birth abroad: you’re gonna love this episode and you’re gonna love

 

Karen Wilmot: The Virtual Midwife

She has been supporting families around the globe for over a decade in person and online. An adventurer, traveller and entrepreneur, she has worked around the world and continues to find new and challenging ways to improve health care for women during pregnancy and birth using online technology.

Her book Giving Birth Abroad – The Essential Guide for Expats Expecting provides the road map to embrace pregnancy as part of the expat adventure and is packed with checklists and cheat sheets coupled with practical wisdom of 20 years abroad. 

Karen’s career has enabled her to work on a diamond mine in South Africa, in a small village in Mexico, in a military hospital in Saudi Arabia and with the Royal family of Oman. This rich diversity of experience has given her a deep insight into the needs of women across countries and cultures as well as the unique challenges that expats face.

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This interview will:

– give you hope and trust for your pregnancy and birth abroad (possibly still during the pandemic!)

– offer some mindset shifts to deal with pregnancy-related stress and anxiety

– help you navigate doctor’s visits abroad

– show you, how much control you have – even if you don’t feel like you do

– tackle cultural differences, and how to find your way

– make you feel empowered to take more responsibility in the matter

You’ll also get me totally oversharing my pregnancy and birth experiences abroad 😀

 

I hope you’ll enjoy listening to it as much as I did recording it. And if you are expecting I wish you all the best on this beautiful journey! Do let me know how it all went!

Follow Karen

Website: www.thevirtualmidwife.com 

Blog: www.thevirtualmidwife.com/blog/ 

The Confident Birth Bundle: https://meet.thevirtualmidwife.com/birth-bundle 
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Episode 22: Empowering Yourself and Other Women – with Nyna Caputi

Episode 22: Empowering Yourself and Other Women – with Nyna Caputi

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On the occasion of the upcoming International Women’s Day and Women’s History Month, I wanted to dedicate a Podcast episode to how (expat) women can empower themselves and others.

And who’d be a better guest to interview for this than Nyna Caputi!?

 

Meet Nyna:

she’s the founder and CEO of  “The Expat Woman” Membership Club, and has hosted countless events – in person and online – for women (with themes ranging from networking and support to professional growth and leadership).

She’s also an award-winning documentary film-maker and producer. Her most recent work “Petals in the Dust” deals with gender violence in India, an issue dear to her heart for which she’s organized awareness campaigns.

Nyna has received several awards and recognitions for her efforts in Women’s Empowerment: I guess it’s fair to say that this is her life’s big mission!

 

An Accidental Expat

Nyna came to New York from her native India to study film. She was only supposed to be there for a short time but fell in love, got married and moved to her husband’s hometown San Francisco.

In the interview she describes how difficult it was at the beginning: her husband traveled a lot for work, she was not yet allowed to work because of Visa restrictions, all their friends were American and she felt like the odd one out.

How do you dress for an American bridal shower? What do you bring to a “potluck”? How do job interviews work in the US?

I’m sure all of us, especially those who moved to their partner’s home country, will be able to relate to this rocky start!

 

Founding “The Expat Woman”

It was out of her own necessity and the relization that there were other women out there who felt just like her – lonely, lost and out of place – that she started The Expat Woman.

It’s a supportive, membership-based network for professional expat women. Events are organized several times a year  – and Nyna now also shares her expertise in event hosting through her “Digital Event Academy”.

But what you probably wouldn’t guess is that for a long time she was:

 

Battling with Imposter Syndrome and Fear of Selling

Indeed, many women suffer from this – and expat and minority women are even more at risk of questoning their capabilities and value, fearing to put themselves out there and charging for their products and services.

In the interview, Nyna shares her story and what’s helped her to overcome it. 

How can you empower yourself and other women?

In order to empower other women, Nyna points out, we must first empower ourselves.

I believe it’s so important to create an evironment of mutual support and encouragement. In today’s episode, Nyna and I discuss what each of us can do to contribute to that and also what we should stop doing. After all, women need to progress as a collective, and never at the cost of other women!

 

Here are some additional action steps I’d like to propose:

1. Self-care
What can you do that’d make you feel great today? What / who do you have to say no to? ⁣

2. Show some love
Make heartfelt compliments to as many women as you possibly can! ⁣Notice the good in them, and help them to see it too.

3. Lift a sister up
Do you know women around you who are struggling? Have you asked? What can you do to lift them up? (Often, simply being there and showing that you care works like magic!)⁣

4. Support Female-founded businesses

Even if you decide not to purchase their products or services, you could give recommendations, follow and like their efforts on social media, give constructive feedback or simply cheer them on!

Sometimes a small gesture goes a really long way, and you never know which of these female founders is secretly battling with the imposter syndrome or self-doubt so some encouragement could make her day!

 

HAPPY WOMEN’S HISTORY MONTH!

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Episode 21: Embrace Your Messy Mobile Life with Mariam Navaid Ottimofiore

Episode 21: Embrace Your Messy Mobile Life with Mariam Navaid Ottimofiore

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How to Embrace Your Messy Mobile Life

 

Today’s guest is the lovely and inspiring Mariam, also known as @andthenwemovedto – the name of her popular blog and Instagram account.

She’s the author of one of my favorite Expat Books, “This Messy Mobile Life” in which she shares her knowledge and ideas gained over a lifespan of expat experience. She was featured on Oprah for Super Soul Sunday.

Originally from Pakistan, Mariam has lived in 10 countries, as both, an expat child and adult. Married to a German-Italian with whom she has 3 children.

What’s so refreshing about Mariam is that – while she fully embraces her life across borders – she doesn’t sugarcoat the experience. Her advice is not merely a pep-talk, but comes from the heart and will certainly uplift and inspire you, too!

 

Introducing the MOLA

In “This Messy Mobile Life”, Mariam uses the metaphor of the MOLA to descibe our globally mobile lives: it’s a piece of garment worn by the indiginous Kuna tribe of Panama, in which different motives of your life story are stitched together to form a unique and colorful whole.

 

 

 

In this episode you’ll learn:

 

– About Mariam’s most messy moves and moments

– Valuable tips to master any challenges you may be encountering in your crossborder life

– How your MOLA can help you capture your own and your family’s journey (and communicate it to your employer, school etc)

– How to help your kids to thrive through the transitions

– What she treasures most about her globally mobile lifestyle

 

I hope you enjoy this episode and will feel uplifted and inspired! 

And if you do:

 

Please take a moment to:

subscribe (iTunes / Spotify / Stitcher)

leave a review (on iTunes)

and share this Podcast with your expat besties!

 

Follow Mariam

Author of ‘This Messy Mobile Life’ & Writer at ‘And Then We Moved To’ 

 

Instagram: @andthenwemovedto
Twitter: @andthenwemoved2
Order your copy of This Messy Mobile Life here: https://www.amazon.com/This-Messy-Mobile…/dp/1999304012/

 

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Bonus Episode in German: Aus-, Ein-, Ausgewandert… mit Lara Knittel (fromiceland_withlove)

Bonus Episode in German: Aus-, Ein-, Ausgewandert… mit Lara Knittel (fromiceland_withlove)

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Hallo ihr Lieben!

Anlässlich des Internationalen Tag der Muttersprache, heute am 21. Februar, freue ich mich riesig eine Podcast Folge in meiner Muttersprache mit euch zu teilen – Deutsch!

Mein heutiger Gast ist Lara – für einige von euch sicher bekannt als @fromiceland_withlove , ihrem beliebten Instagram Account, auf dem sie nicht nur wunderschöne Eindrücke aus Island postet, sondern auch die lustigsten Reels und interessante Gegenüberstellungen der isländischen und deutschen Kultur.

 

 

Aus-, Ein-, Ausgewandert

Lara ist erstmals im Rahmen ihres Bachelorstudiums 2013 nach Island gekommen.

Dort hat sie sich in einen Wikinger verliebt, allerdings nicht sofort in das Land. Folglich hatte sie viele Jahre eine On-Off-Beziehung mit Island, kam dann aber 2019 wieder dorthin zurück.

Heute ist die Insel ihre Wahlheimat geworden, in dem sie sich – den anfänglichen Widrigkeiten zu Trotz – wohl fühlt (ihr Wikinger spielt dabei natürlich auch eine wichtige Rolle!)

  • Wie sie es geschafft hat, ihre “Hassliebe” in Wohlgefallen aufzulösen,
  • Welche Lektionen sie gelernt hat,
  • Mit welchen kulturellen Unterschieden sie es zu tun hat
  • Und was sie anderen, die sich in ihrem Gastland auch nicht so wohlfühlen, empfiehlt,

    erzählt sie im Podcast!

 

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Episode 19: Raising Bilingual Expat Kids (with Flor García – Little Nómadas)

Episode 19: Raising Bilingual Expat Kids (with Flor García – Little Nómadas)

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When it comes to raising bilingual kids, parents have a lot of questions. Add frequent relocations to the mix, and it can become a real challenge to keep their mother tongues (and cultures!) alive.

My dear friend Flor García and I have had many conversations about raising bilingual children: we both do it and exchanging thoughts, experiences and concerns makes this journey much more comforting and supportive!

But in addition to her personal experience, Flor is also a certified Spanish instructor and a professional consultant for multilingual families.

Having grown up in Venezuela, she got married to an American and moved to Texas for love. Several years and 3 kids later, they were relocated to Germany where they are currently spending their last few months before moving to New York.

This episode is packed with professional value, personal stories and lots of empathy and encouragement!

You’ll learn:

  • The 3 keys for a successful, bilingual education
  • Some of the myths about raising bilingual children
  • How you can support your kids’ mastery of their weaker language
  • Ways to involve other family members, despite living far away
  • Ways to deal with our extended family’s expectations
  • How to language, culture and identity affect our third culture kids
  • and much more!

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Website: www.littlenomadas.com
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18. Finding a Sense of Belonging as a Serial Expat – with Navine Eldesouki

18. Finding a Sense of Belonging as a Serial Expat – with Navine Eldesouki

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Let’s talk about “belonging”! What’s your gut reaction to hearing that term? Is it something you feel? Something you’ve lost? Something you crave?

Belonging is a core need of any human being – in ancient times it secured our survival and safety! But when we move abroad – and especially when we do so several times in a row – belonging can become a tricky thing.

I’ve had a few discussions about this topic in the last week and it was interesting to hear what belonging meant to different people:

Belonging is…

  • being part of a community
  • feeling part of the host culture
  • creating a beautiful home for yourself and your family
  • a state of mind
  • having “constants” in your life, no matter where it takes you (such as a portable business, an activity, a hobby, your family)
  • our connection to Mother Earth

What would you add to the list?

A Serial Expat Wife Perspective

Today’s guest is Navine Eldesouki, an ATCK and serial expat who – together with her husband and 4 children – has lived in 7 countries and 14 houses. 

Born and raised to Egyptian parents in Australia, she’s currently based in Dubai. Navine is the Founder of Coffee with an Expat, a support and social networking platform where expat women can build connections, engage in meaningful discussion, attend meet-ups, events and workshops.

In this episode you’ll find out

  • Navine’s favorite habits and practices that will help you to feel like you belong
  • the mindsets and thoughts that make “belonging” abroad difficult
  • ways to help your children to adjust abroad
  • how to contribute to an environment of mutual support among expats
  • and so much more

Challenge

We’ve also come up with a little challenge that can shift your mindset and help you see more of the good things about your host country – thus making you accept and value certain things more.

  1. Find 5 things that are great about your current host country
  2. Explain why these things are so valuable and beneficial to your (or your family’s) wellbeing and progress!

    Join the challenge over at Instagram @coach.camillaquintana !

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Episode 17 – 3 Mistakes I Made in my Intercultural Relationship

Episode 17 – 3 Mistakes I Made in my Intercultural Relationship

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Being in an intercultural relationship will inevitably lead to a few misunderstandings, confusions and clashes between you and your significant other.

This certainly has been my experience as well, and looking back, I realize a made a few mistakes in my relationship. In this episode I reflect on those and share suggestions of how they could have been handled in a better way so that you can avoid tapping into the same pitfalls!

Mistake #1: Discussing your relationship problems with your friends & family back home

They most probably not as familiar with your spouse’s culture and traditions, and they are obviously “Team You”. So this puts you at an unfair advantage where you’re likely to win all the sympathy points. (Also, let’s not forget that we naturally always tell our side of the story)

Find out what I suggest to do instead in the episode.

Mistake #2: Making it a cultural thing

Have you turned an argument between you and your partner into”cultural thing”?

That sounds something like this: “All of you (enter nationality) are so…….” Or: “(Enter country) is just so…..”

While there might be some truth to it, it’s not helpful to blow the problem up and make it about two countries, two cultures or two religions even. Our nationality is a trait we can’t change and if attacked – we’ll probably go into defence.

Mistake #3: Comparing the foreign-born spouse to local ones

I’ve been on the giving and receiving end of this and I know how unfair and suffocating it can feel when you’re measured by “foreign standards”. This, again, can make you get defensive and thus grow more distant to your significant other.

Remember, the differences between you and your partner are probably one of the reasons you fell in love with him in the first place. We all have a choice about what to focus on – and focusing on the positive traits in our spouse will go a long way!

Speaking of cultural differences: if you want to make sure that you turn those into strengths, make sure to download

The Multicultural Couples’ Checklist

Further Resources

Listen to Episode 16: “My Unconventional but Highly Effective Relationship Advice”

Blog Post: Love Advice That Can Bring Your Relationship Back To Life

Book: Loving Across Borders by KC McCormick Çiftçi

Episode 16 – My Unconventional but Highly Effective Relationship Advice

Episode 16 – My Unconventional but Highly Effective Relationship Advice

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Valentine’s day is just a couple of weeks away and so I thought it’s a good time to share some relationship-related content!

As a certified Relationship Coach, relationships are a topic of great interest to me. They make up a huge part of our lives and can affect all other areas of life as well.

A large portion of my clients come to me because of a relationship problem. Over time, and with the help of my incredible teachers and the experience I gained coaching, I’ve developed my own approach.

I believe all relationships can be improved – it’s never too late or too hopeless. But the answer is not by compromising and meeting half way, like we are often led to believe. Because that requires both parties to change who they are for the other, to settle for less even…

Rather, by being open to look at the relationship from a different perspective, by growing very conscious and intentionally doing things that actually work.

Like this episode’s

6 tips to improve your relationship

Listen to the episode and implement these practical tools right away to create the shifts in your relationship that you desire.

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